My hus­band and I were high school sweet­hearts.  We mar­ried right after col­lege grad­u­a­tion, and had two beau­ti­ful chil­dren.  We were hap­py for 30 years.  One day com­plete­ly out of the blue he told me he want­ed a divorce.  He fell in love with his sec­re­tary.  How cliché, his sec­re­tary?  I was dev­as­tat­ed, I had nev­er looked at anoth­er man.

Our divorce was final last week.  I can’t get off the couch, it is too hard to sleep in our bed.  The emp­ty clos­et sends my head spin­ning.  I want to shoot him but know that is not ratio­nal.  I cry every day.  I just want my old life back, is that too much to ask.


Deaths by sui­cide in the Unit­ed States in 2016
Peo­ple who become sui­cide sur­vivors each year in the Unit­ed States
Bil­lion lost per year in earn­ings to seri­ous men­tal health
20% of Amer­i­cans will be impact­ed by men­tal ill­ness in their life­times

Treat­ment for depres­sion shows an improve­ment with­in four to six weeks of start­ing.


Peo­ple with depres­sion that do not active­ly seek nor receive treat­ment


Adults with a men­tal con­di­tion that received treat­ment


Chil­dren with a men­tal health con­di­tions that received treat­ment


Return­ing vet­er­ans need­ing men­tal health treat­ment that receive it

Sue – Age 52 – Independence, Kansas

Sue – Age 52 – Independence, Kansas


Miguel – Age 38 – Albuquerque, New Mexico

Miguel – Age 38 – Albuquerque, New Mexico


Mark – Age 45 – Weatherford, Oklahoma

Mark – Age 45 – Weatherford, Oklahoma


Brenda – Age 63 – Barbourmeade, Kentucky


If you’re experiencing depression, it’s important to know that you’re not alone and that your condition is treatable. Here’s a list of depression organizations, articles, and websites for more information and support.

Organizations That Educate and Offer Help
A Behav­ioral Health Treat­ment Ser­vices Loca­tor, a con­fi­den­tial and anony­mous source of infor­ma­tion for per­sons seek­ing treat­ment facil­i­ties in the Unit­ed States or U.S. Ter­ri­to­ries for sub­stance use/addiction and/or men­tal health prob­lems.

Nation­al Alliance on Men­tal Ill­ness 1–800-950-NAMI (1–800-950‑6264). NAMI is the largest grass­roots orga­ni­za­tion devot­ed to improv­ing the lives of those affect­ed by men­tal ill­ness. Through var­i­ous pro­grams, it aims to change pub­lic per­cep­tion about men­tal ill­ness, help its mem­bers man­age men­tal ill­ness and build up fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships.

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca 1–240-485‑1001. The ADAA works to improve the qual­i­ty of life of those affect­ed by anx­i­ety and depres­sion relat­ed dis­or­ders. The pro­grams of the non­prof­it pro­vides edu­ca­tion, resources, and sup­port for peo­ple to find treat­ment.

Nation­al Insti­tute of Men­tal Health 1–866-615‑6464. The NIMH is the largest research orga­ni­za­tion in the world com­mit­ted to under­stand­ing the treat­ment and pre­ven­tion of men­tal dis­or­ders. It funds research “to trans­form the under­stand­ing and treat­ment of men­tal ill­ness­es through basic and clin­i­cal research, paving the way for pre­ven­tion, recov­ery, and cure.”

Cen­ters for Dis­ease Con­trol and Pre­ven­tion Divi­sion of Men­tal Health 1–800-CDC-INFO (1–800-232‑4636). The men­tal health arm of the CDC is a good source of pub­lic health infor­ma­tion on men­tal health.

Amer­i­can Psy­cho­log­i­cal Asso­ci­a­tion 1 -800–374-2721. The APA is a pro­fes­sion­al orga­ni­za­tion of psy­chol­o­gists. Its site explains how psy­chol­o­gists work with you to alle­vi­ate symp­toms and offers infor­ma­tion on how to man­age health and well-being while cop­ing with depres­sion and anx­i­ety.

Amer­i­can Psy­chi­atric Asso­ci­a­tion  1–703-907‑7300. The APA is a med­ical soci­ety whose mem­bers work to ensure that per­sons with men­tal ill­ness, includ­ing sub­stance use dis­or­ders, receive humane care and effec­tive treat­ment. Edu­ca­tion­al mate­r­i­al is avail­able on their site, as well as help find­ing a psy­chi­a­trist.

Financial Help Managing the Cost of Therapy and Medication

Part­ner­ship for Pre­scrip­tion Assis­tance This orga­ni­za­tion will help you find ther­a­py and pre­scrip­tion help free of charge.

NeedyMeds 1–800-503‑6897. NeedyMeds is a nation­al non­prof­it that pro­vides infor­ma­tion on health­care pro­grams, offers direct assis­tance, and facil­i­tates pro­grams. It is ded­i­cat­ed to help­ing peo­ple locate assis­tance pro­grams so they can afford their med­ica­tions and oth­er health­care costs.

Togeth­er Rx Access 1–800-444‑4106. With Togeth­er Rx Access, indi­vid­u­als and fam­i­lies with­out pre­scrip­tion drug cov­er­age can get access to imme­di­ate sav­ings on hun­dreds of brand-name and gener­ic pre­scrip­tion prod­ucts at their neigh­bor­hood phar­ma­cies.

Social Secu­ri­ty Admin­is­tra­tion You can find out if you qual­i­fy for ben­e­fits and what med­ica­tion and ther­a­py ser­vices are cov­ered by Medicare here.

Care­ForY­our­Mind This site offers advice on what to do if you can’t afford ther­a­py. It pro­vides infor­ma­tion on care coor­di­na­tion, access to treat­ment, vet­er­ans, work­place issues, Medicare, and more.

Coping, Advocacy, and Support for People Suffering From Depression

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca This site offers blogs by experts and patients, edu­ca­tion­al webi­na­rs and help find­ing a sup­port group near you, or infor­ma­tion on how to start one if none are avail­able.

Amer­i­can Foun­da­tion for Sui­cide Pre­ven­tion 1–800-273-TALK (1–800-273‑8255). This orga­ni­za­tion offers sup­port and edu­ca­tion­al mate­r­i­al for those who have or are con­tem­plat­ing sui­cide, or love some­one who has.

Depres­sion and Bipo­lar Sup­port Alliance 1–800-826‑3632.

<Erika’s Light­house  847–386-6481. This site builds aware­ness around teenage depres­sion.

Fam­i­lies for Depres­sion Aware­ness 1–781-890‑0220.


Mood­Net­work 1–617-643‑2076.

To Write Love on Her Arms 1 -800–273-TALK (1–800-273‑8255).

Find Facts and Statistics About Depression

Cen­ters for Dis­ease Con­trol and Pre­ven­tion Depres­sion in the U.S. House­hold Pop­u­la­tion 2009–2012.

Cen­ters for Dis­ease Con­trol and Pre­ven­tion Depres­sion Among Women

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca

Nation­al Insti­tute of Men­tal Health

Medications and Therapies Used to Treat Depression

Cym­bal­ta (dulox­e­tine)

Viibryd (vila­zodone hydrochlo­ride)

Pris­tiq (desven­lafax­ine)

Celexa (citalo­pram)

Zoloft (ser­tra­line)

Prozac (flu­ox­e­tine)

Desyrel (tra­zodone)

Pax­il (parox­e­tine)

Well­butrin (bupro­pi­on)

Effex­or XR (ven­lafax­ine)

Lexapro (esc­i­talo­pram)

Brin­tel­lix (vor­tiox­e­tine)

Fet­z­i­ma (lev­om­il­nacipran)

How to Cre­ate a Depres­sion Treat­ment Plan

Psy­chother­a­py 101: How to Find a Treat­ment That Works

Find Out More About Alternative Therapies for Depression

Amer­i­can Psy­cho­log­i­cal Asso­ci­a­tion

Cleve­land Clin­ic

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca

Nation­al Cen­ter for Com­pli­men­ta­ry and Inte­gra­tive Health

Find­ing the Right Inpa­tient Depres­sion Treat­ment

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca

Amer­i­can Res­i­den­tial Treat­ment Asso­ci­a­tion

Sub­stance Abuse and Men­tal Health Ser­vices Admin­is­tra­tion (SAMHSA)

Read Patient Blogs Voicing the Real Experience of Coping With Depression

Lawyers With Depres­sion Dan Lukasik is a lawyer from Buf­fa­lo, New York, who cre­at­ed Lawyers With Depres­sion to help law stu­dents, judges, and lawyers who cope with depres­sion.

Daisies and Bruis­es A web­site with links to oth­er sites pro­vid­ing answers regard­ing depres­sion in addi­tion to inspi­ra­tional quo­ta­tions and tips.

Time to Change A blog where patients share their per­son­al expe­ri­ences with depres­sion with the goal of increas­ing under­stand­ing of men­tal health and break­ing stereo­types.

Post­par­tum Progress  The world’s most wide­ly read blog about mater­nal men­tal ill­ness.

Depres­sion Marathon A patient blog of a female run­ner and health pro­fes­sion­al who reveals her bat­tle with severe and per­sis­tent depres­sion, includ­ing how it changed her iden­ti­ty, per­son­al­i­ty, and life.

Finding Tests to Gauge if You’re Depressed

The Gold­berg Depres­sion Test Dr. Goldberg’s Depres­sion Test is wide­ly regard­ed as the first and fore­most self-assess­ment tool for those suf­fer­ing with depres­sion and gen­er­a­tions have found this to be an effec­tive screen­ing method use­ful in encour­ag­ing patients to con­nect with a qual­i­fied men­tal health pro­fes­sion­al.

Psy­chol­o­gy Today

Men­tal Health Amer­i­ca

Depres­sion and Bipo­lar Sup­port Alliance

Cen­ter for Epi­demi­o­log­ic Stud­ies


Find Clinical Trials That Address Depression

Anx­i­ety and Depres­sion Asso­ci­a­tion of Amer­i­ca

Nation­al Insti­tute of Men­tal Health

NHS Choic­es